• Valentine’s Day discussion on post-having-children sex lives, based on 26,000 survey responses
• Most respondents were women (94%), in the age range from 30 to 39 (83%), married (96%), and heterosexual (95%)
• Most popular responses: 1 to 2 times per week (30%) and 1 to 2 times per month (44.5%)
• Frequency of parents’ sex goes up (on average) as children age
• Older parents have less sex (on average), but this is trumped by the child age increase
• Most people do not think they are having enough sex (85-90% for all groups with a frequency lower than weekly)
• Men are about 16 percentage points more likely to say they feel there is too little sex
• Average person in the survey gave their sex life a 5.5
• Those with more frequent sex are most likely to report high satisfaction (7 to 9 range)
• Pain during sex is a common issue
• Resources from Dr. Sara Reardon and Vanessa Marin, including book “Come as You Are” by Emily Nagoski
Published February 14, 2023
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