โข Valentineโs Day discussion on post-having-children sex lives, based on 26,000 survey responses
โข Most respondents were women (94%), in the age range from 30 to 39 (83%), married (96%), and heterosexual (95%)
โข Most popular responses: 1 to 2 times per week (30%) and 1 to 2 times per month (44.5%)
โข Frequency of parentsโ sex goes up (on average) as children age
โข Older parents have less sex (on average), but this is trumped by the child age increase
โข Most people do not think they are having enough sex (85-90% for all groups with a frequency lower than weekly)
โข Men are about 16 percentage points more likely to say they feel there is too little sex
โข Average person in the survey gave their sex life a 5.5
โข Those with more frequent sex are most likely to report high satisfaction (7 to 9 range)
โข Pain during sex is a common issue
โข Resources from Dr. Sara Reardon and Vanessa Marin, including book โCome as You Areโ by Emily Nagoski
Published February 14, 2023
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